Years ago a man would be measured by how good a husband and father he was, and that was pretty simple. Did he go to work every day to support his family and come home every night to sleep in his bed? Excellent man. It wasn't important what happened in between the going to work and going to bed; it was only important that he didn't abandon or embarrass his family.
But it's different now. Today so many children don't have parents who are married, or living together, and women are independent and send their children to day care, men don't get married or have children. How do we figure out if a man is a good or not?